Dasha Interview with Shane – Healing Childhood wounds + awakening+  partying sober

Dasha Interview with Shane – Healing Childhood wounds + awakening+ partying sober
Silicon Valley Wellness

I admit it. I have a party girl syndrome every couple weeks.

I finally understand that I have been seeking connection through substances. I have been trying to escape and avoid reality. I now understand that it’s temporary liquid courage, temporary connection – it isn’t real.

What’s real is a deeper connection to self, facing the insecurities in the face and finding all I need inside myself. Next time I want to escape my reality through partying or any mind alterning substances.

I shall ask myself the following. Thank you @shanethesoundhealer for putting those together.

Is there anything I’m doing that’s getting in my own way?

Is there anything I should be doing that’s delaying my process?

Is there any resentment, guilt, shame, or suffering that I’m holding onto?

How can I be more of myself? And what do I truly love and want to do?

What am I calling into my life for peace, prosperity, and abundance?

What expectations am I setting for myself or others that is unachievable?

When was the last time I did something completely for myself and for no one else?

When was the last time I forgave myself? Of my challenges, and shortcomings, what truly belongs to me?

Am I taking responsibility or blame shaming?

When was the last time I had a real hug?

When was the last time I gave a real hug?

Do I have challenges in receiving? Do I have deeper challenges in “allowing”?

Where in my life am I being authentic? Within integrity?

Not authentic or not integral? What’s my relationship with risk? Vulnerability?

Who am I trying to save lest myself? Is there anything I am projecting?

Where in my life am I being to hard, critical, or judgmental on myself?

When was the last time I showed myself compassion?

Where in my being can I soften any place that feels heavy?

Learn to say NO!!!!!

Learn to say NO!!!!!
Silicon Valley Wellness

We start our day with the best of intentions to get all those important things done on our list…doing all of those things to get us closer to accomplishing our goals.  Then, before we know it the day is over and nothing on OUR list got done but we are exhausted from a busy day…a busy day of doing the urgent, not the important.  How did that happen?
It’s because we let others dictate how our day will go instead of taking control.  We let other people’s urgent issues as a result of their poor time management, poor planning, their procrastination and their drama take priority and control over ours.  Remember…poor planning on THEIR part does NOT constitute an emergency on your part.
Most of us are doing the urgent and that is why we never seem to get closer to our goals and what WE want to accomplish.  The key is being disciplined enough to brush off the urgent and do the important.  It is probably one of the biggest keys to success.
So, how can we do that when all of our time is spent just dealing with the crap and people coming at us all day?  Learn to say NO!!!!!  It will be tough in the beginning but after a while of saying NO and not letting yourself get dragged into other people’s drama…into their urgent and out of control life, eventually they will stop screwing up your goals and take it to someone else…or better yet, they’ll figure out how to deal with it on their own.
So…to get your important stuff done, make a conscious decision every day not to get caught up in the drama of everyone one else’s urgent and out of control life. Learn to take control of your life and your time.  Own it and learn to say NO!!!!
There is a vast difference in between what we may say and what, in fact, we do. Difference between reality and fairy tales.

There is a vast difference in between what we may say and what, in fact, we do. Difference between reality and fairy tales.
Silicon Valley Wellness

Do you always do what you say you will do? Do you always say what you do, whether good or… bad? Seriously? Think about it. There is a vast difference in between what we may say and what, in fact, we do. Difference between reality and fairy tales.
We kind of know, although we don’t care to admit it, what we should do. We say the right things and we appear to be walking the right path. We play the part where we are better than others by “selling” ourselves, often for valid and justifiable reasons.
But let’s face it, how good do we feel if we say one thing and really do another? We are saying good things but emitting negative frequency because we wish we were telling the truth but we are lying. What matters most, is what they DO! If we speak without integrity, we are committing spiritual suicide. We are causing internal conflict between positive and negative vibrations where the negative vibrations always win!
Bottom line: It’s better not to speak and then create negative vibrations telling lies.Speaking honestly with integrity and honoring every word by our actions is the key to being balanced.